Wednesday, October 22, 2014

SMS pt3: Emotional Intelligence & the Lack Thereof

Is it me or do people just not give a damn anymore...

2 Timothy 3:1-5 (NRSV)* #verseOfReflection #d-shedRmx
You must understand this, that in the last days distressing times will come. 
For people will be lovers of themselves...ungrateful...implacable...
holding to the outward form of godliness but denying its power.

Welcome to part 3 in a continuation of the "Source of My Stress" series. In part 1, I discussed how my conquest for faith & learning at the time seemed to amount to nothing short of foolishness. Then in part 2 we looked at how "mindfulness", or some state of being in/at peace can do wonders for your overall health. Well, here we are in the 3rd installment, talkin' bout none other than Emotional Intelligence (EQ).

SN: It may get a lil biased, but at some point you have to expect nothing less.

Intro to EQ
What is emotional intelligence? Simply put, it's the ability to understand your feelings and the feelings of those around you. To come to a place where you realize and are able to (some degree) objectively assess how said feelings affect everything (and everyone) around you. The ability to master your emotions in various situations plays into this as well. For more information check out this link.

Why EQ? 
As you may or may not know here at #imdatruthblog we stress (pun intended) to be purveyors of truth in hope of reaching "higher heights". Not higher in the sense of enlightenment or actualization, but higher in gaining a greater (therefore vertically improved) understanding of who we are, how we live our lives, and what that means for us, our families, communities, etc.

You may have noticed that there seems to be an increase of what I'd like to call emotio-lacktivity. Most people call this empathy, which is one of the five categories belonging to emotional intelligence or what is also known as the emotional intelligence quotient (eq or eiq for short).

EQ in Our Lives
I'm sure there have been times where people have done something or acted / responded in a certain way that didn't make sense. This goes beyond what's expected, logically rational, or whatever your preference may be for said situation. In this particular instance it doesn't make sense because the actions which generally speak louder than words offer a glimpse of how these individuals may actually be: Selfish.

Remember the golden rule? Let's take a look back at the #verseOfReflection

*The context of this verse speaks to how people will live in ways which don't honor God. What is less Godly than not loving your neighbor as yourself or as often quoted "treating others how you wish to be treated"? In other words how you gon' treat somebody in ways which you'd never allow them to treat you?!

This type of behavior is akin to a parent saying, "do as I say and not as I do." You expect something to be done in a certain way toward you (i.e. How you're treated), yet you don't give the same thing away (i.e. How you treat others). After experiencing this much recently and talking to friends, I thought I'd put it to a vote and see if "we're wrong" or if society as a whole (mostly the millennial generation) has lost its tact & care for others.


Disclaimer: In an effort to protect the innocent, I have taken on their frustration.
(i.e. Some stories are being retold in first person)

Leave your comments, criticisms, and concerns below.
Here are a couple questions to get you started.

1. So, do we just anymore?

2. Which EQ category do people seem to lack most in these days?
(Here's the article explaining EQ from the "Intro to EQ" section)

  • Self-awareness
  • Self-regulation
  • Motivation
  • Empathy
  • Social skills

3. Thinking back on the video: Has any of this ever happened to you?

Sumthn2Ponder (s2p):
  • How well do you know the people in your life?
  • Is blood really thicker than water?
  • Are there folks you should cut loose?
    • Maybe limit their access to you...

Honorable Mention:

In case you need it
Am I Wrong (Nico & Vinz) Lyrics

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